I was always taught that people who hurt others are normally the ones who are deeply hurt themselves, and I have seen this to be true on more than one occasion. There is always a reason for someone to have grown into a person who is the cause of pain and misery in the world. Whether that reason is something we agree with or we don’t, it must be acknowledged that it can’t be avoided in terms of its capacity to turn a person into someone savage, or just pure mean.
I understand what it means to be a bully because of the number of times in my life I have tried to stand up against one. I understand how their sole power lies in their ability to instil fear in the mind of a fellow human. They derive their greatest pleasure from being able to sniff out a person unable to stand up to them, and then they find ways to feast on the same. Soon they embody a persona of toughness, which is often only a disguise for their true inadequacy, but most people can’t look through this because they get convinced by the threats they encounter along the way.
The bully may walk away having done what he’s done, but the Someone has watched their act and will find a way to repay them for it. Bullying a person bogged down by circumstance is the lowest form of human behaviour. Strength isn’t about an enormous capacity to throw your weight around. Strength is about being able to lift the weight off of another’s shoulder. It is about being kind when you aren’t being judged, it is about helping others even when you know you can’t be helped back.
So the next time you remember a time that you’ve been bullied in the past my love, or face a situation wherein you are currently being bullied, just remember that there’s more in that situation. There’s more in it because that situation is one wherein you have to dis-cover your strength, the strength that you are not even aware of at the moment. The strength that is present but lying dormant behind the shadows of your past or your perceived inadequacy. However, this circumstance is like the wind that cuts through the mountains to make it full of nuances and beauty, and character above all else. This situation is going to end at some point, whether you find strength in it today or you find strength in it much later.
Yes, the situation might cause you pain and scars and wounds that will hurt you and compel you to believe in meaninglessness, but here’s the key: if you manage the pain and aim to transcend it, you will find within you a place that can cause you to grow into a much more beautiful version of your self. As for the perpetrators of injustice, all I can say is that they will have their share of realisation and even though you may be tempted to be the one to dispense justice, let it not bring you down from the mighty pedestal that you have gained, and you certainly will, if you dare to seek your strength within. Moreover, beyond the Bully, there’s a brave heart waiting to be uncovered.